1. Hobbies after work – such as sports, walking and aerobics.

2. Lunch, breakfast, coffee

3. Celebrate birthdays or small wins

4. Bring a dish/ cake

5. Volunteer to help colleague

6. Smile, say hello.



种瓜得瓜 Sow what you reap
By 丰子恺 Feng ZiKai

Chinese ink painting
Singapore National Gallery

Simple can be harder than complex: You have to work hard to get your thinking clean to make it simple. But it’s worth it in the end because once you get there, you can move mountains. Steve Jobs

Jack Ma: The world is not about what you can do, but what you ought to do.
马云:世界不是因为你能做什么,而是你该做什么. Book by 丁翔

Like Ozawa I also get up at four in the morning and concentrate on my work, alone. In winter, its still pitch dark …

I spend five or six hours at my desk, sipping hot coffee and single mindedly tapping away at the keyboard. Ive been living like this for more than a quarter of a century. During those same hours of the day when Ozawa is concentrating on reading his scores, I am concentrating on my writing. ….

It often occurs to me that this life of mine would not exist if I lacked the ability to concentrate. Without concentration, it would not be my life. I suspect that Ozawa feels the same way.

“If you remember me, then I don’t care if everyone else forgets“.

Absolutely on Music, conversations with Seiji Ozawa by Haruki Murakami

Ice-Breaker: Paper Tearing Activity Team building Games at the Workplace or with your kids on a rainy day Objective: Communication and being a good listener.  Materials: A4 sheet of paper per person. Time: 5 minutes Directions: 1. Tell the participants to pay close attention and perform the requested task. 2. No one can ask questions during this activity. 3. Close your eyes during the activity — no peeking! 4. Fold your sheet of paper in half. 5. Tear off the upper right-hand corner. 6. Fold your paper in half again. 7. Tear off the lower right-hand corner. 8. Fold your paper in half. 9. Tear off the upper left-hand corner. 10. Fold in half a final time. 11. Tear off the lower left-hand corner. 12. Unfold your paper and hold it up. 13. Open your eyes, look at the product and compare it with the other participants’ products."   Debrief:  Remember, when you communicate with others, they may not receive the message you sent. Individual perceptions vary. Have table groups debrief and discuss. Here are some possible discussion topic(s).  If you were given the same directions, why were everyone’s products different?  What does this mean to you as a communicator? Now you can try writing your own directions for this exercise. Regroup into listening teams. Each team member should read his or her directions aloud as the remaining members do the paper folding and tearing. After all the team members have taken a turn reading directions, determine whose directions were the easiest to follow. Consider the following: What did or did not work in your directions? What did you do to communicate more accurately in the second exercise? Why are good communications needed everywhere in life? What kinds of real-life situations could be avoided if clear communication were always possible. Variations: This can be done with eyes open, but only oral directions. Industry examples for children Air traffic control and aviation Traders and hand signals Cross-cultural miscomm, time, space, gestures, facial expression. Source: Active Training by Mel Silberman, 658.3124 SIL (BIZ) Submitted by:  Jennifer Arns


Photo taken by me at PS Cafe Dempsey Singapore. I love how a few medicine bottles are upcycled with ferns cut from roadside trees into objects of beauty, illustrating how beauty is in the eye of the beholder.

ʎʇʇǝɹԀ Ugly by Abdullah Shoaib

I’m very ugly

So don’t try to convince me that

I am a very beautiful person

Because at the end of the day

I hate myself in every single way

And I’m not going to lie to myself by saying

There is beauty inside of me that matters

So rest assured I will remind myself

That I am a worthless, terrible person

And nothing you say will make me believe

I still deserve love

Because no matter what

I am not good enough to be loved

And I am in no position to believe that

Beauty does exist within me

Because whenever I look in the mirror I always think

Am I as ugly as people say?

(Now read bottom up)

Note: Someone sent me this. I dont know who Abdullah Shoaib is. Its interesting that reading left to right, top down or bottom up, changes the meaning.

Western cultures read from left to right. Chinese culture read from right to left for instance (sun rises from the east to the west).