Measure how much time you talk about:
(a) how smart, special or wonderful you are – or listening while someone does this, plus
(b) how stupid, inept, or bad someone else is – or listening while someone does this
From Marshall Goldsmith, “MOJO – How to get it, How to Keep it, How to Get it Back if you lose it”.
Actually, its Tool#11 in his book. But I like it so much, I put it as #1.
Goldsmith asked his research subjects to guess. Some people estimate 100%, because they believe that all workplace communication serve only these two purposes.
In his view, whether we’re boasting about ourselves or criticizing someone else, such chatter is pointless. We learn nothing and its not good for your MOJO.
Measure yourself and Reduce this number.